When was the last time you did something simply because you enjoyed doing it? Not because you had to do it, but because you wanted to do it?
When we engage our passions, interests and talents, something comes alive on the inside. If you’re a reader, you know the comfort of curling up with a good novel. If you’re an artist, there’s something magical about sitting down with colored pencils and a sketchbook. If cooking is your thing, pouring a glass of wine and trying a new recipe can do more to nourish your soul than a thousand pedicures. (Although there’s a LOT to be said for a good foot massage.)
Today I’m excited to introduce my friend Tabi from over at Tabi Eats as she shares how pursuing her passions and interests helps nourish her soul! She offers up some really practical advice that I think we would all do well to follow!
Q. How do you nourish your soul on a regular basis?
A few years ago, a friend gave me a wonderful piece of advice: Do one thing for yourself every day! I started doing one thing for myself every day, and I cannot believe the positive change it made in my life. It’s not selfish to put yourself first, so let’s get that lie out of the way!
Q. How do you manage to fit in time for yourself every day?
Sometimes, it’s hard to look at your already full planner and find the 20-30 minutes in your day to squeeze in your favorite show, catch up on a book, or enjoy a cup of your favorite coffee. And you’re thinking, if I even had an extra 30 minutes, I would use it to sleep!
Well, I’m here to encourage…NO…demand that you find that time. It’s there! Look for it! We are all busy, whether you are single or married, kid-less or kid-full. We all have work meetings, Bible study groups and projects we signed up for, baby showers and so many other commitments that we probably don’t ever remember making.
Trust me, if you don’t make time for yourself, you will start to lose it! And everyone around you will probably lose it too, because let’s be honest, you’re the amazing person holding all of this together!
Q. What happens when you neglect that time for yourself?
I’ve noticed that if I miss a few days, I get irritable and cranky. And next thing you know, I’m at a birthday dinner, standing in the middle of a Thai restaurant, yelling at my family about how no one cares or listens to me and I’m not picking up another cake! (This may have *actually* happened. It was all a blur really, and I apologized to everyone the next day. Not my best moment, but I digress.) Seriously. Don’t put it off. Let your loved ones know you are going to do this, and ask for their help to make it happen!
Q. What hobbies or interests have you discovered that really seem to help you refuel?
Cooking has always been a passion of mine. I had the privilege of growing up with parents who both knew how to cook well! My dad was born in Burma and brought along the influences of the Orient into his cooking along with our South Indian roots. Cooking Indian food intimidated me. I remember telling a friend once that I would cook an Indian fusion dish. I had no idea what I was doing and I nearly burned her house down. I most certainly burned her plastic cookware. Fail.
I started cooking simple dishes in college and found a love for food and experimenting with food. It was like therapy. I would get in the zone and just start cooking (with a glass of wine, of course.) My love for cooking pushed me to start a cooking blog. (Click here to check out my new website!)
I am finally learning to cook Indian food, which has always been a goal of mine, even if I burn a few things! The website allows me to express my creativity with cooking and share other passions I have, particularly for promoting health and wellness.
Q. What’s your advice to other women who are struggling to make time for themselves and their passions/interests?
Okay, here’s my “Oprah” moment… If you don’t like something about your life, change it. Yes, it’s that simple. The steps that follow might not be, but the decision is. Whatever it is that you wish was different or better, try to find the steps to get to that place. It will be not be easy at first, and it will take some patience and planning. But do it, and do it now! Us this 30 Day Challenge to try something new and get out of your comfort zone. Growth happens outside of your comfort zone, and taking time for yourself can be a great way to try something different and new.
The past year and a half of my life has been a journey of making decisions that will lead me to success. I won’t get into details, but I found myself in a place of discontentment and frustration. I started reaching out to friends and family for help, and I put my “big girl pants” on and started to discipline myself in different areas of my life: my relationships, my finances and my health. I could write a book on how all of these changes have brought me to a place of contentment and success in my life. Not perfection, but success.
I’m so thankful for the advice my friend gave me years ago. So, now I am passing it onto you. The ball’s in your court… What are you going to do? I hope you choose to put yourself first!
Isn’t that so good? I love Tabi’s advice about stepping out there and trying something new. It’s one of the reasons why I decided to cook my way through an entire cookbook on Instagram. Giving myself a reason to try new recipes brought the fun back to cooking again!
Speaking of cooking, Tabi has some fantastic recipes over on her website. I personally love this Cilantro Lime Cauliflower Rice recipe, and I can’t wait to try this healthy Indian Fusion recipe for Chicken Tikka Masala! Be sure to subscribe to her newsletter for all the latest content, and follow Tabi over on Facebook and Instagram, too.
So what one thing little are you going to do for yourself today? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!