I admit that I am not the most patient person in the world, so this whole business of changing from the inside out really frustrates me at times. Despite a culture of quick fixes and instant gratification, I’ve come to embrace this simple truth: Lasting change takes time.
Let’s face it: You can manipulate your body with diet and exercise to do just about anything to get quick results.
One of my friends told me once that he spent 24 hours cycling in and out of a sauna in a sweatsuit so he could shed enough water weight to pass his physical fitness exam for work. That may sound a little bit crazy, but it’s no crazier than thinking we are going to find peace with our bodies and food by only changing what we eat or how we move.
How You Feel About Yourself & Your Body Reveals a Lot
Just a little over a year ago, I hated myself and my body. I remember trying to explain to my husband why there were days when I just didn’t want to leave the house. I dreaded going out because I felt so embarrassed and ashamed of my weight. What if I ran into someone I hadn’t seen in a long time? All they would see was FAT, FAT, FAT.
I said and thought things about myself that I wouldn’t DREAM of saying to another person, and the worst part? I thought this was normal. Sadly, this IS the norm for a lot of women today.
Dove Beauty created this incredible documentary that illustrates the disparity between how most of us view ourselves vs. how others actually see us. It’s about six minutes long, but absolutely worth watching. (Spoiler alert: Grab a tissue if you’re feeling tender today.)
Eight months into recovery from food addiction and binge eating disorder, I don’t feel that way about myself anymore. By God’s grace and with a lot of support, I’ve made a COMPLETE PARADIGM SHIFT in my mind and spirit. At long last, I’m learning to treat myself with kindness, love and compassion…because I am worthy of my own respect.
These past few months, I have focused more on the inner work than on weight loss. Yes, I’ve learned a ton about health, nutrition and smart food choices, but I really haven’t been focused on the scale. (Ten years ago, I lost 75 lbs in less than a year, but I eventually gained it all back because I changed my diet without changing my mind.)
Based on that experience, I knew that until I tackled the deeper stuff, the rest would never stick. I confess that at times I feel like a disappointment because I haven’t lost a bunch of weight, and I don’t have one of those awesome before/after photos.
If only I could capture the before and after of a mind that’s been transformed.
I am no longer at war with my body.
I refuse to allow guilt and fear to drive me to diets and deprivation.
I’m asking simple questions like: “How can I nourish my body today?”
When I feel triggered to binge or eat foods that I’ll later regret, I’m learning to reach for support instead of my fork.
I keep a journal of my daily successes, EVEN ON THE BAD DAYS.
I wear clothes that make me feel good in the skin I’m in.
I make time to play, listen to music and do things that breathe sunshine into my soul.
I accept myself EXACTLY as I am, even as I’m changing.
I am finally ready to let go of limiting beliefs and lose the weight for good.
Real, lasting change happens in the awkward, “I’m not there yet but I’m not giving up” space. That’s the space I’m living in…for now. How about you?