The thought of spending 15 minutes a day doing something that nourishes your soul sounds so easy, right? It’s 15 minutes. This should be a no-brainer. That is, until we find ourselves caught up in a flurry of day to day busyness that leaves ZERO time for the vital work of self-care, quiet time, and rest.
During this Q&A series, I’m chatting with busy women who make time to nourish their souls on a regular basis. This week, I am SO excited to introduce my precious friend, Cristy Jenkins, who manages a thriving business alongside her husband, Andy, all while raising nine kids! In the middle of all that, she still makes time to find quiet and nourish her soul daily.
Cristy and Andy have been married for 17 years and have nine amazing kiddos. In a world of busy, on-the-go schedules they understand firsthand how important it is to be kind to our bodies. They spend their days helping people take charge of their own wellness journey by showing them how to make practical and proactive choices. Even their kids participate! It’s a family lifestyle and business. It’s changed everything about who they are, how they connect and why they serve.
Here’s what Cristy shared with me about making time to refuel spiritually and relationally. (There’s some good stuff here, ya’ll.)
Q. How do your nourish your soul on a regular basis?
I love your word choice: nourishing! This might sound too easy, but my favorite non-negotiables are time in the word, worship and connecting with the Lord to see what’s on His heart. Currently, I’m soaking in the Passion Translation, reading Psalms. I find that reading it aloud helps me melt into it better and simultaneously speaks life and truth out into my day, my family, home and business. “Faith comes by hearing, and what is heard comes from the lips of Jesus…” Rom 10:17 AMP Just declaring His word shifts the entire day!
Q. How do you manage to fit in your daily quiet time or even time alone when you have kids?
Every single morning I wake up before the plethora of kiddos do and connect with the Lord. If the baby (now, toddler) comes in to snuggle, I open my arms, he climbs up and I continue reading aloud and praying. As a mom, you learn to adapt to any environment, right?
As far as alone time, I find it most convenient in the bathroom, esp. shower time. Not kidding. Shower time is like a portal to heaven for me! I have most of my epiphanies while washing my hair!! Ha! I know that sounds funny, but hey, it WORKS! And my kids know they have to wait when the bathroom door is closed. “Mom is in the bathroom, you’ll have to wait til I come out” is a common phrase in our house. I may or may not slip away to the bathroom during the day just to get a moment alone. 🙂
Q. What happens when you neglect to make time for yourself?
Oh, snap. It ain’t pretty. We’re talking grumpopatomus, wart on my pointy nose, irritation station. My older two daughters are quick to see this and often suggest, “Mom, do you need some time to yourself? Want to go take a nap? We can watch the kids for a bit.” Then I know it’s bad. Erp!
Q. What habits or practices have you found to be most critical in helping you refuel?
Daily–every.single.day with the Lord. And just worshiping. I LOVE to worship. My favorite is opening my iBethel app and listening to one of the worship sets. Sometimes, I put in earbuds, other times I blare it over our speakers while I sing, dance and act a fool. My kids join in, too!
My husband and I also have a weekly date night so we can reconnect and carry on a conversation without any interruptions. These are sacred moments! Also, sneaking away at least once or twice a year with girlfriends helps me refuel. Recently, I spent a long weekend at the lake with two of my dearest friends from college. I’m pretty sure we laughed for three days straight! It was so refreshing. Laughter is GOOD medicine!
Q. What advice would you give to other women who are struggling to find time for quiet in their lives?
Something the Lord dropped into my heart years ago, and still burns there today, is this heavenly concept of rest. The enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy. Even in the garden his deception was the catalyst for toil. Toil is not found in the KINGDOM of God. Toil is a tool of the enemy to cause distraction, frustration and chaos. Who knew thousands of years later rest would be reestablished on Earth? Jesus released Kingdom rest when He said, “Come to me, all you who are weary, and I will give you rest.”
On days when quiet eludes me and toil tricks me into partnership, the ONLY thing that restores my weariness is breathing in His rest… closing my eyes, seeing His face, breathing His fragrance and aligning with His sweetness. Then rest floods the anxious places and restores my mind to the reality of Heaven and its power through me on earth. It’s amazing. I encourage anyone struggling with finding quiet rest, to take a few moments and do a word search in the back of the bible. Look up rest. Then go read all the passages. You will be blown away! Breathe in his beauty, look into His intoxicating eyes, and melt into His love.
So much wisdom in those answers, Cristy! That time of rest and worship can make ALL the difference, and it’s worth every sacrifice to make it happen.
If you’d like to hear more from Cristy, head on over to Overflow Wellness for more hilarious and heartfelt family stories, plus tips for using the health/wellness products available through their Young Living business. Thanks for joining the conversation, Cristy!
Now it’s your turn, busy chicks! What are you doing this week to refuel? What’s your secret to making time for quiet connection with the Lord? Chime in with a comment below!